So often we are quick to point out the flaws in others. We make a judgement and truely feel that we know what is best for them- what they need to change to better themselves. What we don’t realize is that often this exercise proves to be one more intrinsic than we recognize.

When you say, “I really like so-and-so, but they are so loud.” You really ought to look at how loudly you speak, because it is likely you are not content with your own gauge, which is why you are pointing it out in someone else.

Another point of self-reflection is to be honest with yourself, in the quite chambers of your own mind. Don’t let thoughts of what you would like to be or perceive yourself as muddle the true image. There is a time and place for visualization to promote your movement forward, but this is not it. This is when you want to be completely honest with yourself and ask, “What are my weaknesses? Or, what do I need to improve upon?” Only in this space can you constructively build towards being the person you envision.

My sister is in town for a visit, and during her time here, I have really gotten to know her better. One of the things I admire greatly is her ability to know what does not come naturally to her, and when in a situation where it is demanded be prepared for it- thereby ensuring her best “performance” and outcome. I was so inspired by her self knowledge and couldn’t help think, “Do I know myself that well?” Do you? One thing is certain, we should.